A loaded question, “Will you be my Valentine?”
What exactly does that question mean?
A valiant heart
Valentinus was a relatively common name in the late Roman Empire, meaning “strength.” Words with the same root include “valor” and “valiant.” Choosing a sweetheart on this day dates to 14th-century English and French court circles, credited to Geoffrey Chaucer, celebrated author of The Canterbury Tales and more.
The question actually asks, “Will you be my strength?” It’s far more than hearts and flowers, far more than romantic love, and may not even be romantic. That brings us to another question, “What is strength?” Strength is physical stamina, mental energy, force, vigor, power, confidence, security and the ability to support another in a positive way.
Have you heard anyone say, “I hate Valentine’s Day!” What that often means is “I do not have a romantic partner on this special day. There is something wrong with me.” Maybe what is wrong is your Valentine’s definition. Remember, Valentine = Strength!
Although it is wonderful to have a romantic partner in your life, we all need more than romance. We need strength to support us. Some of us have large amounts of inner strength. And even then, we can all use more. The relationships we have with family, friends and co-workers help provide some of that necessary strength to help us be good humans.
The corollary is that we provide strength to our family, friends and co-workers. The relationships should be reciprocal. And that also helps us be good humans.
So rather than lament the absence of a Valentine, look around and see who gives you strength. And then, take another moment to acknowledge whom you support with your strength. And be rich on Valentine’s Day.
Drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org and tell me about strength given and received.